It’s a common misconception that women take breakups harder than men. Truthfully, the end of a relationship can be gut-wrenching for anyone and everyone involved.
On Monday, we heard from men who recently had their hearts broken when a Reddit thread emerged asking guys to reveal how they dealt with — and eventually got over — their last split.
Here’s what they had to say:
1. Keep busy.
“I broke up with my girlfriend a couple months ago, so I started focusing on my workout more and stopped biting my nails. That’s just the beginning, I’m thinking of taking some night classes during the week (maybe ballroom dancing, cooking or something like that) and am getting back into some hobbies. It’s always going to be tough, but don’t get caught in a rut!”
2. Don’t be afraid to get emotional.
“It’s going to suck for a time, let it suck. Don’t spend too much energy on trying to get better. Don’t hold back, either. If you want to cry, or break something, or curl up into a ball and sleep, do it. It’s part of the healing process.”
3. Reward yourself.
“Buy a new game, book, pick up a hobby, eat a bunch of ice cream (also known as the Female Method®), you wouldn’t believe how well it works.”
4. Get back out there.
“Start having a bit more fun in life. Reconnect with old friends. Perhaps meet new people. Keep up the good habits but allow for some failures and maybe have a couple of flings to take your mind off the ex and remind yourself that there are other people out there.”
5. Take time to better yourself.
“I changed some of my bad habits that gave me a sense of control and something to focus on. Last big break up I quit smoking and started lifting, I’m like three to four breakups from perfection.”
6. Cut all forms of contact.
“Cut contact, delete Facebook, hit the gym. Time will make it better. Throw things away that remind you of her or of your relationship.”
7. Rebound, even if it’s casual.
“I had a rebound fling where both parties were in mutual agreement (I wasn’t leading the girl on or anything). Fun times.”
8. Revel in your new found singledom.
“Listen to a lot of music that’s about being single.”
9. Realize that time is on your side.
“Keep it simple. All it takes is reminding yourself the train is still on the rails and eventually you’ll find the past just fades behind you without much effort.”
10. Educate yourself.
“Read about the science of heartbreak, it helped me immensely in a similar situation. It gives you a good idea of the science behind what you’re feeling and some well needed perspective.”
11. Get over it (seriously, just do it).
“Grieve for like a day or two and then move the f**k on. There are so many women out there. No matter how much you love someone, there are so many people out there that you will love just as much or more. Plus being single is awesome.”