Is it worth to pursue a relationship that is not fulfilling eonugh? At what point negative point outweigh the positive ones, or vice versa? Help our reader to make a decision!


I’m totally confused about what to do in my relationship.

We met through a mutual friend a year and a half ago. He has three children (all from his ex), and I have a son. My son doesn’t care for him, but I’ve fallen in love… and I can’t figure out why. The thing is, I feel like I’m settling.

He never finished college while I have two degrees. He makes a good living, but it’s manual labor and it’s taking a toll on his health. I love that he accepted me at my worst and still loves me when I’m thriving and succeeding. His manners are subpar, he dresses like a 9-year-old boy, and he never helps in the house unless I nag him.

I don’t know if I want to raise three more children, and again, my son can’t stand him.

I don’t know if I’m with him because the love is amazing and because he loves me, or if I just don’t want to be alone. I am fond of him; I’m just not sure if it’s enough to overlook his flaws. Help.