When someone hurts you, it’s hard to find the reason to be kinder to them. Sometimes people say and do things that hurt us deeply and most of us try to hurt them in return, but that’s a huge mistake. Being rude or vengeful will make you feel worse and can even cause you lots of problems. No matter how painful your situation might be, it’s important to be nice and kind to others. Just like Henry James once said, “Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.” Below is the list of a few undeniable reasons to be kinder to people who have hurt you.
1. It shows what a good person you are
While you don’t have to prove anything to anyone, being kinder to people who’ve hurt you will prove what a wonderful and intelligent person you are. People around you will perceive you as a smart and strong person who knows what to say in a difficult situation. Many of us can’t find the right words to say to the people who’ve hurt us. Try to be kinder to people around you, even if they’ve hurt you many times, and inspire others to do the same.
2. It softens your attitude towards them
Another reason to be kinder to someone who’s hurt you is because it can soften your attitude toward them. Sure, you can respond to them as mercilessly as they’ve been to you, but this will only make a bad situation worse. Being kinder to them is a smart way to respond to them. This way, you’ll feel less hatred toward them. I always pity someone who’s hurt me for being such a miserable and hateful person.
3. You won’t feel miserable and guilty
If you’re kind to people who have hurt you, you will have nothing to feel guilty about. Being rude in return means that you might feel down about two things. You might feel miserable because they’ve hurt you and you might feel guilty because you was rude to them. The best way to respond to unkindness is to smile and be kind to those who have hurt you.
4. You’ll feel good about yourself
When you’re kinder to someone who has hurt you, you’ll feel good about yourself and you will know that you are better than that person. Rudeness won’t make you feel better. Always set an example for others by being kinder to people who have hurt you, and everyone will respect you for it.
5. You’ll kill them with your kindness
It’s always a good idea to kill people who’ve hurt you with kindness (as the saying goes) than hurt them in return. Maybe your kindness will make them admit their mistake and apologize. Even if they won’t admit their mistake, your kindness will simply drive them crazy and they will leave you alone. Avoid communicating with them, instead surround yourself with kind and positive people who make you happy.
6. It’ll change their rude behavior towards you
Being kinder to people who have hurt you could change their rude behavior towards you. Your kindness might make them reconsider their actions. It’s hard to change someone’s behavior towards you, but you need to at least try. My kindness made many people who had hurt me sorry for their rude behavior towards me. This is a good reason for me to be kinder to rude people and those who’ve hurt me.
7. Others will speak well of you
When someone hurts you in front of others, being kind to them won’t show to others that you are weak. It will allow others to know what a wonderful and smart person you are. They will definitely notice this personality trait and they will respect you even more than ever before. Moreover, the person who’ve hurt you will notice your kindness as well, whether they want it or not.
Being kinder to people who have hurt you is both a skill and an art. It’s a challenging task, but try not to hurt anyone in return. Many people think that kindness is a sign of weakness, but it’s not true. Khalil Gibran said, “Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair, but manifestations of strength and resolution.” Remember it the next time someone hurts you. What’s your best way to respond to those who’ve hurt you?