Whether you are the dumpee or dumper, it’s always difficult to recover from a breakup no matter how hard you try. However, it’s not the reason to feel miserable and hopeless. Being single isn’t as bad as you think and you will definitely find your true love down the road. But now you should stop dwelling on your past relationship, learn some lessons from it and move on. Being single is actually the perfect time to figure yourself out, and set your life-changing goals. If you have trouble getting over a breakup, here are a few tips that hopefully will help you.
1. Forget about him
You might call me crazy, but it’s really easy to forget about your ex. Just set a goal of deleting him from your life, and be sure to achieve it. Stop stalking him on social media, delete his phone number, and all his photos. You don’t need them anymore. You begin a new life, life without him. Believe that your new life will be happier and all the best things are waiting for you. Keeping a positive attitude after a breakup is a hard thing, but there’s no sense in sitting at home and moaning about your miserable life.
2. Have a spa day
You don’t have to head out to an expensive salon and spend a fortune on beauty treatments you can make at home. From facial, mani/pedi, to massage, the options are endless. Choose at least one beauty treatment that sounds the most relaxing to you and have a spa day at home. If you can afford to visit a salon, look for the best deals on popular beauty treatments to save some bucks.
3. Keep your friends around
It’s so tempting to stay alone after a breakup, but it’s one of the worst things you can do. While you do need some me time, you shouldn’t isolate yourself from people you love and who love you and want to support you. Plan movie nights, go for a walk, exercise, plan road trips, indulge in a new hobby, meet new people and make new friends… in one word, enjoy your life to the fullest and keep your family and best friends around even when you are sad and want to cry.
4. Have fun
As I mentioned above, you should live your life to the fullest even after a painful breakup. Go dancing, sing karaoke, try a new sport and have lots of fun. Smile and laugh as often as you can and you will see that you are happy and you are ready for a new relationship. As an added bonus, laughing has been shown to increase your lifespan.
5. Work out
Just because you are trying to get over a breakup doesn’t mean you can skip your workouts. Hit the gym today to boost your feel-good endorphins and distract yourself from your failed relationship. Moreover, you will tone up your body, drop a few unwanted pounds and improve your overall health. Try a cardio kickboxing class, yoga, swimming, running, jogging or walking. Stay active and you will feel more alive.
6. Indulge in a new hobby
When you are single and have plenty of free time, why not indulge in a new hobby? There are many interesting activities you can try: cooking, making jewellery, scrapbooking, knitting, sewing, candle making, writing and many more. Invite your family or friends to join you, and enjoy making fun and useful things together. When you are productive, you feel better than when you are lying the whole day and night crying and stalking your ex on social media.
This tip isn’t for everyone; if you are on a budget, don’t run into debt. But if you think you can afford a vacation, why not visit some of your favorite places? There are so many beautiful places around the world that you will forget about your failed relationship in no time. Traveling boasts many benefits. Not only will you see the world, you will also meet lots of interesting people and make lots of new friends.
8. Don’t opt for a rebound
A rebound doens’t work for anyone. If you attach to a man very quickly and easily, never opt for a rebound. It’s not a new relationship and it’s bad to play with someone else’s feelings and emotions. If you believe that a rebound is for you, make sure you tell a guy that you are not serious about this relationship. Though, who knows, maybe that guy will be your future husband.
9. Disconnect from the world
Turn off your phone, laptop and other electronic devices, if you can’t stop spending your time online or if you keep looking down at your phone to see whether he called or not. Read a good book, spend your time with your best friend or parents, or simply relax and drink a cup of your favorite tea. Spending a day or two without your electronic devices is not as bad as you may think.
I don’t like to recommend people to cry after a breakup, sometimes it’s just what you need to feel better. If you feel like crying, don’t suppress a feeling. You deserve to grieve about your failed relationship, but only a few hours. Don’t let yourself fall into depression. Remember, a failed relationship is not the end of the world. Love yourself, believe in yourself and keep in mind that you’re wonderfully beautiful and you will find your man sooner or later.
Most people have to get over failed relationships every now and then. It’s hard to cope with a failed friendship as well. The main thing to remember is that it’s not a complete disaster. Yes, it’s painful, but life is not always easy and happy. We need those painful experiences to become stronger and wiser. What are your ways to get over a breakup? Share your tips with us, please.