From a guy’s perspective, how can I get my ex back after he found out that I cheated on him? I made out with a guy once when I was tipsy. I know that’s not a good reason. I want my ex back so bad and I want to fix our relationship so much that I’m willing to do everything he asks. I tell him every day that I love him, that I’ve deleted all the contacts of guys he doesn’t like, and what I do all day long. I don’t know what the line is between him how much I’ll change if he gives me one last chance, and giving him space to decide about things. Please help!
Before you continue pursuing your ex-boyfriend, I think you need to first ask yourself some important questions to determine why you made out with someone else in the first place. Was he a person you’d been interested in for some time? Or perhaps a random dude who coerced you into drunkenly doing something you didn’t really want to do? Were youimmediately regretful, or did you kinda feel good about it that night? For the moment, forget about what your boyfriend would think about the responses to these questions, and answer them purely for yourself.
The thing is, losing a boyfriend over a “mistake” like this can be pretty traumatic, causing feelings of unexpected regret even for someone who strayed out of a lack of fulfillment. I would think long and hard before potentially pulling your boyfriend back into a situation in which you won’t be able to give him all of yourself. Cheating often suggests a deeper dissatisfaction, so you should be certain that you truly want to re-commit yourself to this relationship.
Even if you are still in love with your ex, there are most likely some issues that need to be addressed. Communication of your wants and needs are not only crucial for your own satisfaction, but will help him come to understand why you did what you did.
However, I don’t feel that a couple’s trust must necessarily be eternally broken for one silly, drunken mistake. But his decision to pick things up again will probably be based on:
a) The strength of the foundation you’ve already built together
b) The circumstances of the kiss
c) Your ability to communicate your feelings to him
d) His personal tolerance for infidelity
So if you are, in fact, still committed to winning him back, there are only so many things you can actively do to attempt to do so – most of which you’re already doing. You can only reiterate your remorse, continue expressing your love for him, and give him whatever space from you he verbally requests. Actions don’t always speak louder than words; sometimes words are just as necessary, and he might need to hear them many times before he believes them.