There are few things more annoying than when the guy you like is continuously giving you mixed signals. Attempting to read them and figure out exactly what he’s trying to communicate can be a nightmare! No doubt there will be times where his mixed signals will have you wanting to pull your hair out and just shout and ask him outright what on Earth he’s playing at. There can be a lot of reasons guys give off mixed signals however which is the first lesson you need to learn. Second to that, you need to know how to deal with all the different messages he’s sending you. Sure, it’s frustrating but I promise there are ways for you to deal with it and keep a level head. Here’s 10 tips on how to do just that…
Watch Him Like A Hawk
Now, are those really mixed signals he’s giving off or are you just imagining it? The only way to be sure is to keep your eyes on him (slyly though, don’t be creepy!) and watch exactly what he’s doing. Does he make eye contact with you? Does he smile when he sees you? These are important questions. Try reading up a bit on body language and what it means to see what message he’s trying to convey.
Don’t Jump To Conclusions
As hard as it may be, don’t jump to conclusions about what his mixed signals may mean. You’ll only wind up scaring yourself – more than likely for no reason at all.
A Little Extra Info Never Hurts
If possible, speak to his friends to try and get a better idea of what’s going on in his head. Id there another girl on the scene? Did he just beak up with someone? Get all the info on your crush you can to help you understand the whole picture.
If there is another girl on the scene or your guy is having trouble making his mind up it never hurts to register your interest. Flirt a little when you’re with him, it will let him know you’re a contender and will help him see you in a new light.
Show Him What He’s Missing
Be the best version of you possible. Laugh, have fun, enjoy life and make sure your guy sees this. Show him exactly what he’s missing and what kind of a girl you are, if he’s got any sense he’ll come running!
Find Out What He Wants
Casually strike up a conversation with him about what he wants out of life and out of a relationship. This will subtly get him thinking about the idea of you and him and will help you understand him a little better.
Give Him Time
He wither likes you or he doesn’t, right? Wrong. I’m sorry to have to say it, girls, but there will be times when your guy doesn’t know what he wants. I’m sure you’ve all had those times with something or other in life so try to understand that he’s allowed to be confused too. There are a lot of reasons guys can be confused too so don’t panic that it’s you. Just be sure to give your guy plenty of of time to figure out what he wants, be understanding and don’t push him otherwise you’re sure to push him away.
Give Him Space
If you spend a lot of time together, perhaps he’s used to having you near. Give him a bit of alone time, some time when you’re not around but you usually are. If all goes to plan, he’ll begin to miss you. This will give him some clarity and may help to clear us all those pesky mixed signals – especially if, like I said before, he’s not even sure what he wants.
Keep Your Cool
As much as you may be stressing and however much you want to yell at him asking what’s wrong, try and keep your cool. Some guys unconsciously give off mixed signals just to see how we react so it’s important you don’t fall into this all too common trap. Act aloof and like it doesn’t bother you – he’ll be running after you in no time at all.
If all else fails and if after a few weeks he’s still sending off all kinds of mixed signals it’s probably time you took the bull by the horns and confronted him. I know, I know, that’s a scary idea but sometimes it has to be done. Walk up to him, lay all your cards on the table and tell him how you feel and ask him why he’s been acting like he has. You may not be guaranteed the answer you want but at very least you’ll have an answer one way or the other.