Despite having an understanding of the risks involved in dating married men, Findings has shown that many young ladies still think it is far better than giving themselves to single men especially when the latter are not yet ready for marriage.
A study revealed that most Nigerian ladies have, at one point or another, dated married men.
Some have continued to even maintain double relationships where they date a married man and keep their relationships with younger male -bachelors.
Many of the ladies who spoke with our correspondent concerning the issue, said they feel more comfortable dating married men than bachelors.
While some disclosed that the are dating married men because of money, some said they engage in such relationships because of the maturity and experience of the men who already have wives at home.
However, apart from these two reasons, we spoke with two ladies who said they were dating married men as revenge against their boyfriends.
Many of the ladies confessed that they had to stick with married men because they have not found a man ready to marry them.
Toyin Adedamola, a 36-year-old resident of Oshodi area of Lagos, told our correspondent that dating a married man “is not a big deal.”
“As I am now, I don’t mind being a second wife as long as I am comfortable and respected like a wife by the man,”
Another respondent, who simply gave her name as Jumoke, confirmed that she was dating a married man but added that she was not ready to be a second wife.
“Experience has taught me that being a second wife would make you fight for your life till death. So I told him I can’t be a second wife.
“I am only with him till I find the right person to marry me,
” she said.
A married woman, who refused to mention her name for safety reasons, told our correspondent that it is sometimes good to date a married man for experience.
I dated a married man here in Ogun State before I got married. I finally bade him bye two days to my wedding.
“I felt it would also help me to monitor my husband’s activities and keep him from women. The man was actually encouraged to date a woman outside because his wife made his home hell for him
,” the pregnant 29-year-old woman explained.
For Maureen, she dates a married man apart from two regular boyfriends.
While the married man pays most of her bills, she keeps the two boyfriends pending when any of them would decide on marriage.
“I have been managing them. The married man knows I have another person, but the two bachelors don’t know each other or whether I have a married man
,” she said.
For Eyitayo, dating a married man comes with risks, but she believes that in life, everything possess their own risks.
“There was this man I dated last year and his wife sent people after me. I was beaten mercilessly and had to spend three weeks in the hospital,” the 29-year-old petty trader said.
She admitted that she learnt her lesson since the mistake came from her.
“I always called and chatted with him even though I knew it was risky. That was how his wife knew and came after me.
“Though I have left the man, I am in another relationship but this time, the man’s wife is not in Lagos. The man lives alone and works here
,” she said.