You may be thinking to yourself how can arguing possibly be an essential element to a successful relationship? Well, according to psychiatrist, Dr. Gail Saltz, describes that arguing can be a very rewarding experience between two people as they express their different points of view, their feelings, and their individualism.
Sure, we all go through the honeymoon phase of our relationships and once that part begins to fade away we suddenly start to understand how the other one tries to compromise, introduce improvements to the relationship, and we learn a lot from what the other has to say.
Dr. Saltz also mentions that in order to have constructive arguments in your relationship you must first master these five aspects before you go into any kind of fight with your partner:
Don’t say anything that you’re going to immediately regret, make sure that you stick to the topic that is being discussed, be sure that you are listening to the others words carefully, speak honestly once you feel anger boiling inside you, and you don’t always have to be right because it’s more than okay to admit when you are wrong.
It’s important to recognize when you are your partner are no longer having constructive arguments with each other: If both of you end up leaving the conversation angrier than you were before you entered into it then this means that you both should work on managing your tempers.
You must be willing to see the other person’s point of view, how they feel, what they expect, and what they want to do in order to achieve happiness again. It’s also important to realize when either one of you is too angry to even communicate.
You both must be extremely level headed before going into a fight with each other, otherwise you’ll see very quickly just how self-destructive that kind of demeanor can be. Continue reading on the next page