Find out if your man is still hung up on the girl he was dating before you came along
So you are in a new relationship and your head is in the clouds. But something about your boyfriend tells you that he’s not that into you. In fact, your guess is that remnants of a previous relationship still haunt him. You don’t want to be his rebound girl, though. If your man exhibits any or most of the behaviours listed below, he is still in love with his former flame.
He often talks about her
The most obvious telltale sign is that she is almost always on his mind. Does he keep bringing up her name and the things they used to do together when he’s with you? Worse, does he mistakenly call you by her name when he’s getting intimate with you, or in a heated debate? It’s time to consider running away from this Devdas!
He still keeps her gifts
The last time you dropped by at his house, you couldn’t help but notice her photos and toothbrush in his apartment. It’s okay to hang on to a trinket from your former lover but hoarding onto her gifts and belongings means he’s hanging on to her through the objects that remind your man of her. Tell him that this bothers you, and if he doesn’t discard of the stuff, it’s time you moved on.
She is still his bestie
It is normal behaviour to wish an ex on her birthday or text her when you hear news of her engagement. However, if your man continues to reach out to his former partner, especially within a year of a breakup, it’s a bad sign. Observe if his ex continues to play his pal and lead him on. If she’s the first person he calls – instead of you – when he wants to convey good news or just talk with someone, you are not even in the game.
He is friends with her family
If he still visits her family at festivals and dinners, it is a sign that he can’t sever ties. It might sound harmless, but watching a cricket match with his ex’s dad is not desirable behaviour.
You are constantly compared to her
It’s nice that he tells you how great you are, but if the statement is followed by a comparison with his rotten his ex was, there’s some leftover angst in him. Whether you are a better cook, lover or cricket fanatic than her doesn’t matter; the fact is that you are being compared to someone he used to date. This is probably his way of considering you his prospect but this makes it more evident that he still pines for her.