Put Away Your Phone
Self-explanatory. Actually, look up at the world—it’s kind of pretty sometimes. “Put away the tablet, phone or computer once in a while,” she says. “The man in the coffee shop might feel like he doesn’t stand a chance of tearing you away from that glowing screen.”

Speak Up
Don’t be afraid to strike up a conversation face-to-face. “Brave up and be aware of people around you instead of your Tinder app,” says Colada. “Online dating apps are a fun way to make connections when you’re not out in public. At least check your messages when you’re in the ladies’ room, instead of being engrossed with it while you’re waiting in line for coffee.”

“A real-life smile, not a colon and a parentheses, will go a long way in keeping your outlook positive, and it can have the ripple effect on the people around you,” says Colada. “Single happy people want to connect with other single happy people. Just because you smiled at someone who happens to have a girlfriend, doesn’t mean your smile was wasted. You just made someone’s day.” Your face is a lot prettier when it’s got a smile on it. Trust us.

Hold Their Gaze
“I love looking into people’s eyes, but you don’t want to stare—that can make people uncomfortable or give a false sense of intimacy,” she says. “Trust me, I’ve done it and plenty of people have asked me, ‘Why are you looking at me like that?’ [Instead, master] the art of the glance. Three times is a charm if you want to let someone know you are interested.”

Practice Makes Perfect
Be your confident, sexy, smiley self around everyone. “I promote smiling and connecting with everyone,” says Colada. “It will make it easier if you have gotten out of your comfort zone with the people you are not interested in romantically when you meet someone you really want to flirt with.”

But before you scoff at this list, let us leave you with one last piece of dating wisdom:

“Do the things you need to do feel good, and pass along the good vibes to as many people as you can,” says Colada. “The people around you will appreciate you for it. Except the ones who are too busy looking at their phone.”