You’re getting married! To keep it fun and easygoing, follow the advice below from brides and grooms to take the stress out of the planning and executing of your big day. Here are five secrets people say they wish they knew before their wedding:
Get A Professional (If You Can Afford It)
It’s a stress reliever and time saver. But if a wedding planner is not in your budget, choose a neutral, calm friend to be your main helper. Avoid having family members do this job, especially the mother and father of the bride and groom. Ask this person if they have the time and energy to assist you in all things such as dress fittings, visiting venues, and coordinating hotel suggestions for out-of-town guests.
Don’t Stop Dating
The most easygoing engagements happen to couples that remain connected and positive. Carve out time for just the two of you. Do fun or relaxing things that aren’t related to the wedding every weekend, no matter what. Do not allow the wedding to take over your lives, or you will be stressed out by the time it arrives.
Be Firm with Your Family and Friends
Use clear, direct statements to convey information, especially to family members and close friends. Let them know their level of involvement ASAP, and consider keeping it minimal. Just be kind when sharing this information. You want to make sure they know how much you appreciate their help—even if it’s staying far, far away from the wedding planning.
Keep Everything Simple
The less you have to plan and keep track of, the less stressed you may become. Weigh your dream wedding with how much you want to stress. For some of us, that might mean eloping. For others, it might mean cutting the guest list from 450 to 250. Consider having friends help with certain areas of the wedding planning. Your friend who is a chef can oversee the menu to your tastes. Your friend who is crafty might love coming up with awesome favors or centerpieces. You get the idea. Don’t let the details distract you from your happiness.
Know What You Want
Sit down with your soon-to-be husband and each of you come up with one to three words that you want to describe your wedding and engagement. That way you’ll have something to really aim toward.