Let’s face it – breaking up sucks. Yes, sometimes it’s totally necessary, but that doesn’t mean that it still doesn’t hurt. After a breakup, it’s pretty easy to fall into the wallowing, eating ice cream while watching Sex and the City re-runs and writing passive aggressive Facebook status updates. And, that’s totally fine.

To a point.

(And please don’t do the passive aggressive Facebook update thing. It’s not cute)

So give yourself a little time to feel sad and get your wallowing done and over with. But at some time you’re going to need to bounce back and when it’s that time, you need to be feeling your best and probably not wearing your pajamas.

How to get over a breakup:

Shake things up a bit.
I don’t know about you, but I know when I’m feeling particularly low after a breakup, I automatically feel the need to change something. Dramatically. I know you know what I’m talking about. The Hair Change. Whether you chop it off or dye it a dramatic color, you’ll feel like a new woman. Cut out those last pieces of your ex with that haircut. Not only will you feel amazing, you’ll look hot!

Time to get your bum moving! Go to one of those expensive workout clothing places and pick up a new piece. Then get your hot little self over to the gym and work it on out. Take a yoga class. What about a dance class? Get your body moving and you’ll feel better physically. This is a way better option than being a lump on the couch.

Say yes.
Chances are your friends are trying to pull you out of your rut. Am I right? Well, instead of staying home on Friday night, watching P.S. I Love You for the hundredth time and ordering Chinese food, accept their invitation and go out. It will do you a world of good to be out and about. You may not feel like it at first, but once you’re out, have some dinner and drinks and catch up with your girlfriends, it will all be worth it.

Put yourself out there.
Now I’m not saying you need to jump into a relationship immediately, but it can’t hurt to meet up for coffee. Have a little makeout session or some rebound sex. You’re single, so be single! Pro tip: make sure the other person knows the situation, because the last thing you want to do is a break a heart yourself.

Fake it til you make it.
This is something that was once told to me during a rough time. Yes, I may not feel like a complete mess, but if I just get up and straighten my hair, polish my nails and throw on something besides yoga pants, I’m making an effort. Yes, I may not feel like smiling and dealing with watercooler chat at work, but I do it. Yes, I may not feel like going out after a long day, but I do it. So fake it and eventually you will get to the point where it doesn’t feel forced.