Here are five things I think all women should and must expect from the man they decide to be with. If you expect anything less, you are selling yourself short.
1. Consistent Respect.
I have no interest in being with a man that respects me sometimes. If a man cannot respect you all the time, he doesn’t respect you at all. And respecting you doesn’t mean that he agrees with everything you do or say; it just means that he honors who you are as a woman—as a person—and he treats you with a level of respect that is reflective of that honor.
2. Support and Encouragement.
Your man should support and encourage you in every possible way. Whether you are struggling with family issues, or trying to sort through your professional vision for your life. He should be there offering the right words and doing the right things to show you that he’s got your back.
It costs nothing to be kind, so anyone who is unable to treat you kindly is a jerk. Kindness is really just about making another person feel the way you would want to feel. Honestly, we learned this stuff in kindergarten. If a grown man can’t treat his lady with kindness, he is not the right man for you.
There is nothing worse than a person you just can’t rely on—whether he’s your man or not. When you are involved with someone on a romantic level, you need to know that you can depend on him. Broken promises and being MIA when you need him the most, are just the beginning of a journey you do not want to take.
If your man has lied to you in the past and as a result, you just don’t trust him, you have a big problem. You have to determine if you are able to forgive the lie and move on, depending on what it was. Trust is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship, though, so without trust you can find yourself struggling to truly be happy with this man. A man that can’t keep his word is not a man worth keeping.