Once you are in a relationship, it’s easy to get complacent and not do the little things that made your man fall in love with you. Nowadays, with so many distractions and so many other women ready on the sidelines to make your man feel good and steal him away from you, it’s important to make sure that you do more than just tell him “I love you” when he walks out the door in the morning.
1. Do sweat the small stuff. Compliment his choice of shirt, provide a loving smile, give him a sweet kiss on the cheek and do other little things to make him feel like you genuinely care.
2. When you want to say something, positive or negative, choose your words wisely. Your tone of voice and words can seem harsh. Mom used to say, “You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.” Instead of saying, “Is that the best that you can do?” try, “Honey, let’s try it this way.”
3. Give him undivided attention. Turn off the dang cell phone if you are going out together. Concentrate on him and make him feel like he is the only man in the world for you.
4. Don’t judge him. Gently point out another way to do something, but do not be condescending and say derogatory things like, “I should have known better,” or “What kind of idiot are you?”
5. Ask him. “Hey, what would make you happy today?” Find out if he’d just like to lie in bed and read the Sunday paper with you or go do something that he likes, like bowl or shoot pool.
6. If you know something annoys him, like leaving your makeup all over the bathroom orcracking your gum, try to stop doing it. Make a conscious effort to change those annoying habits.
7. Surprise him with random acts of love. Leave a note in his briefcase, pack his favorite cookies in his lunch or bring home a CD from his favorite artist. Spontaneous and small acts of love can go a long way.
8. Be there when he accomplishes something that you know means something to him. Maybe it’s the three-on-three street ball tournament or graduation from cooking class. Show up even when you are not interested in these things – it will show him how much he means to you.
9. Compliment him in front of others.
10. Defend him against negative comments.
11. Celebrate whenever you can. Don’t just wait for birthdays, Christmas and your anniversary. Bring home his favorite Marie Calendar’s pie when the Little League team he’s coaching wins or he gets a promotion or passes a test or certification. Be his biggest cheerleader.
None of these things require major effort, but they can go a long way in making your man feel appreciated and loved.