Is there anything really more gut wrenching than finding out the person you’ve been crushing on doesn’t like you back? It’s terrible, right? But there is no need to sit around wallowing in a depression over it. Here is 10 super useful ways to get over your special someone- and fast.
1. Admit You Have a Crush
You know what they say: “the first thing to do in recovery is admit you have a problem”- and in this case, your certain ‘problem’ is your crush. Admit to yourself that yes, you had a crush on him or her. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, even if it didn’t work out the way you planned.
2. Accept The Outcome
So, he didn’t end up liking you back. Or maybe he decided to date someone else. Or maybe there was just no hope for a future together. That’s okay. Sometimes we just don’t ‘gel’ with people the way we want to. But you need to accept the outcome before you try and move on- or else the rest of your ‘recovery’ will be a waste.
3. Don’t Dwell on It
One of the worst things you can do- in any bad situation, really- is dwell on it. These things just happen, it’s a part of life. But why should you spend every second, minute, and hour of the day wondering “Why?” or “What if?” That’s just a waste of time, energy, and emotion. So don’t dwell on it! Try and find other things to take up your time. Maybe you could join a new class or just make more time to go hang out with your friends?
4. Get Support/Talk it Out
Ninety-nine point nine percent of the population has had a crush that didn’t work out or like them back. Your best friend, your cousin, even your mother. So reach out for some support. Talk about these terrible feelings together with someone you trust. They will probably have a story you can relate to about that “special guy” in their math class 20 years ago. You know, the extra hot one that sounds JUST like the guy you had the hugest crush on. And you know what they say, the best way to get something off of your chest and feel better about a situation is to simply talk about it. So don’t harbor in those feelings- let them loose!
5. Don’t Take it To Heart
Okay, so maybe he didn’t feel the same way about you. But that doesn’t mean that there is anything necessarily wrong with you. We all have certain likes and dislikes. Maybe he prefers brown eyes over blue. Maybe he prefers a ‘preppy’ girl over an ‘athletic’ girl. Maybe he only dates girls who like the same sports as he does. Or maybe the reason is the two of you just didn’t ‘jive’ and there was no flow of conversation. There could be a million reasons why he didn’t like you back, but you shouldn’t take it to heart. It’s not YOU. It’s most definitely him.
6. Don’t Get Angry or Depressed
I think I’ve already said this at least once in this blog- but there is absolutely no point in dwelling over the situation and getting angry or depressed about it. I mean, what is that going to fix? Absolutely nothing! You will spend a whole lot of precious time and energy on something that really doesn’t matter in the long run. Sure, it hurts now, but that just means there’s someone a million times better just waiting for you.
7. Don’t Think About Him
You read that and probably immediately thought to yourself, “Wow. That’s impossible!” Yeah, I know. Telling you not to think about your crush is A LOT easier said than done, right? But getting over him or her will be a MILLION times easier if you just try to block him out of your mind as much as possible (that is, if you’ve already discussed it and come to terms with the outcome of your crushing). Which leads us to number 8!
8. Focus on Yourself
Now that you’ve realized the two of you are never going to be ‘one’, it’s the perfect time to focus on yourself. Maybe now you could finally enroll in that dance class you’ve always wanted to join. Maybe now you can join an art class and transform your surge of sad emotions into a beautiful masterpiece. Maybe now you could decide to totally switch things up and try out that new, quirky, yet totally hot hairstyle you’ve been dreaming about. There’s a million things you CAN do- so what will it be? The point here is to take the focus completely off of your crush and entirely on you. And trust me- whether you do something as simple as spending more time with friends or going to get a massage, you will feel a hundred times better about yourself.
9. Flirt With Someone Else
So, just because you are still kind of crushing on someone you can’t flirt with someone else? Yeah, right! You know, the gold old ‘rebound’. I’m not saying you need to run into the arms of another man or woman right away in a terrible attempt to take your mind off of that special someone. But hey- there is NOTHING wrong with a little bit of innocent flirting. You never know what may come of it, and in the mean time you can exchange some saucy words with a handsome looking fellow in the meantime. Certainly that will take your mind off of ‘what’s his face’.
10. Don’t Place Your Crush on a Pedestal
All this time you thought he or she was perfect. He had the perfect body and the funniest personality. She was a cheerleader with glowing blonde hair and a smile that could make you melt. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And you’re just the sorry sap with nothing to give, right? Absolutely WRONG. When we have a crush on someone, we have a tendency to put them on a pedestal and think they are perfect. But, they are human just like us. Maybe now that you know they aren’t interested you can see things clearly. Now is the time to look back and reflect on THEIR faults, instead of yours. Maybe they had a funny personality, but they never knew how to be serious so they could never hold a serious relationship. Maybe she had a great smile, but she was nothing but a whole lot of drama. Remember, nobody is perfect. So take the time to find reasons why it’s probably a GOOD thing the two of you didn’t work out.
Getting over a crush doesn’t HAVE to be the hardest thing you will ever go through. I mean, yeah, it’s pretty terrible to be rejected. But in the long run- it’s probably a good thing. Just remember to admit you have a crush, admit it didn’t work out, and try to spend as much time as possible talking it out and doing things for YOU that will take your mind off of them. In the end, it’ll be easier than you thought and you’ll realize there’s someone better out there!
What’s your best way to get over a crush?