Relationship behaviours to steer clear of
Nobody wants to be ‘that guy’ or girl in a relationship. From the green-eyed monster to the dreaded bed hogger, here are 10 relationship stereotypes you should avoid falling into.
The bed hogger
Picture the scene: you return home from a hard day at work ready to get some well-earned shut-eye, only to find your partner doing their best starfish impression across the mattress. Frustrating doesn’t cover it. If your partner is forced into sleeping on the couch every night, we can assure you that they are not your number one fan.
Being in a relationship with someone does not mean knowing where they are every second of every day. Demanding to know your other half’s whereabouts every five minutes or checking their texts or emails will get on their nerves, and any suspicions you show about what they’re doing are likely to offend and upset them. Without trust, your relationship is not going to last.
Do you cancel more dates than you actually attend? We hate to break it to you, but you’re a flake. Unless you have a good reason, cancelling dates frequently is a sure-fire way of giving someone the impression you don’t like them. Don’t be surprised when they move on and find someone who will actually make the time to be with them.
The green-eyed monster
Jealousy is never an attractive trait, especially when it’s not rational. Just because your boyfriend makes polite conversation with a waitress, it doesn’t mean he’s about to jump into bed with her. Likewise, your girlfriend’s weekend away with friends doesn’t mean she prefers them to you. Jealousy is proven to make people angry and depressed, so give it the boot before it damages your relationship.
Some people will moan about anything. No matter how much effort their partner makes, they always have to make a niggling comment about how something isn’t right. Do not be this person. Nobody is perfect, and if you constantly nag and moan at your partner about everything they do wrong they will soon grow tired of your negative attitude.
The s*x fiend
S*x is a positive and healthy part of being in a strong relationship, but it’s not the be all and end all. If you’re in a relationship just to get it, then you shouldn’t be in the relationship. It’s important to remember that your partner’s s*x drive might not be the same as yours, which means insisting on having it seven times a day might start to get on their nerves.
“Where are you going? Can I come too?” No, no you can’t. Doing things together is important, but so is spending time apart. Your girlfriend does not want you to ‘tag along’ on her girly night out, and your boyfriend does no appreciate you attending his friend’s stag-do to make sure he behaves. Accept that a healthy relationship requires occasional space, and you’ll both be better off.
As much as you’d like one, your partner is not your personal maid or butler. That might sound obvious, but apparently it isn’t for some people. All those clothes and dirty plates you leave lying around aren’t magically cleaning themselves – your partner is clearing up after you, and they are getting more and more annoyed every time.
All too often guys or girls turn on the charm to bag the person they’ve got their eye on, only to get lazy once the relationship is established. If you stop making an effort and start taking your partner for granted, they’re going to quickly wonder what happened to the person they fell in love with. Making one romantic gestureevery week can make all the difference and keep things from feeling stale.
You might be having the time of your life when you enter into a new relationship, but that’s not a sign that you should try to rush into anything. Saying “I love you” after two dates is probably just going to scare them, and insisting on marriage after three months is never a good idea. Fast-tracking a relationship doesn’t work, and is more likely to end it than move it forward.