There are lots of men out there who like women who put themselves out there. Being a confident woman who isn’t afraid to make the first move is incredibly attractive to many guys. It’s sexy and they love it.
However, there is a difference between being bold and being way too aggressive. Asking for a guys number is great. Calling him as soon as you get home and every day after will likely scare him off.
Moving too fast, too quickly can also scare a guy. Hey, it can even scare girls. It totally works both ways. Make sure you are both on the same page. If you’re talking about going on vacation together two weeks into dating and he’s looking around wildly, you might be in a bit too deep. Keep the communication going, so you don’t have any misunderstandings like this.
Another no-no is constantly talking about how all your friends are getting engaged, married and having babies. He might think you’re trying to give him one HUGE hint and he may not be ready for that. Especially if you’re just starting to date, this is pretty heavy discussion and might make him feel pressured and like you have the same expectations. Again, communication is key here.
Throwing a guy into uncomfortable situations is probably not the best idea. Did you SURPRISE! have your parents come over for dinner to meet him for the first time? Did you invite all your girlfriends to happy hour when he was just expecting to meet you for a drink after work? If you both are really into each other, this probably will happen, but no warning to meet the besties or the parents is a little harsh. It’s a big thing, so make sure he’s ready and feeling prepared.
Depending on where you are in your relationship, whether it’s casual or steady, makes a really big difference. If you just started dating someone and are suddenly leaving all your things at his apartment after spending just a night or two – he may not be ready for that. Having a discussion about leaving a set of clothes and a toothbrush there first would be a good idea.
If you’re really into a guy, you don’t want to scare him off. You can obviously prevent doing it by making sure you both are communication how you feel. I know feelings, especially in a new relationship, can be hard to get out sometimes, but don’t ruin something great, by going full throttle when he’s clearly not ready.
Again, this goes both ways. Guys, the same tips apply to you. Don’t scare a girl off by being too intense!
Talk to each other and then talk some more. Make sure you’re on the same page and all will be well.