Relationships are tough, and if you feel like you’re not doing your part, it can become overwhelming. Make sure your girlfriend duties are in check and become the girlfriend you’ve always dreamed of being with these 15 steps to being a better girlfriend.
1. Stay Hot, Honey!
You know what they say, you should never change yourself for anyone- and that’s absolutely true. However, you can still do whatever it is you need to do to make sure you’re looking your best for your partner. After all, he thinks you’re the most beautiful woman in the world and happily has you on his arm wherever he goes. He wants to flaunt you in all your womanly beauty, so why not look your best? Whether you hit the gym, change your eating habits, or simply dress up every once in awhile, he will surely appreciate it (and will of course love the bragging rights even more so).
2. Trust Him
Nothing is more annoying- and breaks up a relationship quicker- than a partner who doesn’t trust their lover. Trust is important. It is the stepping stone of every great relationship, so if you’re lacking in this department, you might want to cut ties before it gets to heated. Not to mention no man wants to be with a woman who is constantly doubting his loyalty, even though he has given you 110 percent of his love and attention. In the end he’ll just think you are crazy and don’t care.
3. Give Him Some Space and Be Independent!
An independent woman? A HUGE turn on to men. Sure you want to be around your boyfriend as much as possible and spend plenty of time with him, but everyone needs their space. Show him you can be independent and successful without being glued to his hip and he will want you even more. (He will also enjoy those fishing trips with the guys!)
4. Stand By His Side- No Matter What
A great girlfriend- one who really and truly cares about her lover- will stand by his side no matter what. Even if there are rumors coming from every angle or he’s just lost his job, she will be there to encourage him and defend him till the end. Doing so will make him feel cherished and secure while also elevating you to the woman of his dreams. After all, don’t we all just need someone we can depend on through and through? Someone who won’t flake at the first sign of disaster? Your boyfriend’s looking for this person, and YOU should be it.
5. Love Him
You’re probably thinking to yourself, “Well of course I love him! That’s an easy and (kind of) stupid tip!” Think again. There’s a difference between loving someone and showing someone you love them. Do you think he can read your mind? Of course not! (Even though some woman are still under the impression their man should be able to know what they’re thinking.) You need to show him you love him, whether it’s with plenty of hugs and kisses, a sweet romantic gesture, or even something over the top- hey, guys like lovely surprises too!
6. Love Yourself
No man wants to be with a woman who puts all of her self worth into the guy she’s with. This shows extreme lack of confidence and a sense of neediness that really nobody wants to put up with. Love yourself first, and he won’t be able to stop from loving you too.
7. Be Uplifting and Positive
Have you ever had one of those friends that was constantly negative? No matter what happened, they would end up sulking and have something negative to say. Can you imagine entering into a relationship with somewhat like that? Talk about a downer! Your man needs a woman who will brighten his day- not bring a raincloud along. That doesn’t mean you’re not entitled to have a bad day every once and awhile, we all have those. But the bulk of your life should be filled with positivity and an uplifting spirit that will make him want to better his (and yours) lives!
8. Encourage Him
This goes hand in hand with being uplifting and positive, and is an essential trait of the perfect girlfriend. Whether he just needs some extra encouragement to finish his last school assignment or he needs some serious encouragement to conquer his finals, you should be there cheering him off. After all, the woman is supposed to better the man; why wouldn’t you want to egg him on in the right direction? Best part is you will be able to reap the positive benefits together and have a very rewarding future.
9. Don’t Be Afraid to Be Silly
Men absolutely love it when a woman can take her hair down and just be silly. Playing video games, making jokes, frolicking through the sand- there’s seriously tons of different ways to just let loose and have fun, and even if you think you might embarrass yourself, we still suggest you give it a shot. He will certainly love seeing you in this new, silly way and the two of you will make a new memory you can joke about for ages. Sounds good to me!
10. Make Him Feel Special
We always hear about how men come home with flowers and chocolate, or they take their girls on random romantic dinners on the beach, or swoop their girlfriend up from work to take her on a dreamy trip to the cabin in the mountains. But what about the man? Doesn’t he get anything? A relationship should never be take, take, take, and I’m sure your guy wouldn’t mind a little recognition here and there. You don’t have to give him a bouquet of roses and a sappy love poem, but there are a lot of other ways to make him feel special. It could be from something as simple as telling him you love him and appreciate him to buying him something he’s been eyeballing for the past few months (like a new tool or piece of sports equipment, whatever he is into). You know your guy best, and you’ll know what kind of things will make him feel warm and cozy on the inside.
11. Treat HIM Once and Awhile
A girl paying for dinner? That’s unheard of! While you probably shouldn’t do this on the first couple of dates, after many weeks or months of being together it’s definitely okay to treat your man to dinner every once and awhile. After all, he’s probably taken the bills several times before and has no problem spending money on you, so why wouldn’t he deserve this? Whether it’s dinner, movies, ice skating rink, or a ball game, treat your man and he will definitely appreciate it.
12. Like… Or At Least Accept His Friend
Okay, we’re not saying you have to totally love and want to hang out with his beer drinking, armpit scratching, loud mouth friends, but you should at least accept them and not mind your man being around them. In fact, you should hang out with them every once and awhile too so they can get to know you. But try to refrain from saying anything negative about his boys (unless it’s something serious, obviously). He won’t appreciate your comments and you’ll probably come across as some nagging, whiny woman who just wants to keep him away from his friends. (Huge turnoff, ladies.)
13. Be Willing to Try New Things
We get it- there is some things you absolutely will not do, like jumping out of an airplane or going deep sea diving. But you should open and willing to try some new things, especially if he’s a huge fan and would like to include you in his activities. Just be confident, secure, and know that your partner is right by your side to help you through every step of the way. You might find out that an activity you once thought was scary or boring is actually one of your favorite things to do, too!
14. Keep Things…Interested
Yes, ladies. We are talking about in the bedroom. A boring sex life leads to a breakup. And that’s just the honest truth. Men need to be enticed and stimulated in the bedroom, so make sure to keep things interesting. Maybe ask him about something he has been wanting to try with you, or try adding some sexy lingerie into the mix. Anything to keep those sparks flying and keep him interested and satisfied.
15. Quit Nagging!
This is probably the best tip of them all: ladies, STOP NAGGING. We can’t tell you how many times we’ve watched as a woman incessantly nagged or whined herself all the way up to a breakup. If you want to be the best girlfriend you can be and ensure your relationship will sustain a lifetime, you need to stop nagging or whining about him as much as possible. It’s okay to say your opinion, of course- but when all you seem to do all day is nag him about everything, you have a problem. Lighten up and just be sweet and fun with your man. It will seriously pay off.