It has come to my attention that there is a terrible rumor going around about men: that we’re selfish in bed. Hey, I’ll admit, there’s not a man I know who will decline oral sex from a woman he fancies. I mean, it’s a blowjob! It’s one of the all-time greatest discoveries—just ahead of Columbus finding America. Still, I take issue with this rumor. Because as much as men like to receive, we also love to give. If it’s not already obvious why, let me explain:
1. It Extends The Pleasure
The penetration part of sex generally only lasts a few minutes. I didn’t make this up. There is actual research on this (and even stats on which state lasts the longest in bed). So a fella’s best hope for marathon sex—or you know, sex that lasts longer than a commercial break—is to dedicate a little a time to you alone.
2. …And Increases Our Odds of a Dual Climax
If there were a race toward orgasm, men would win every time. But it’s not a race—sex is a team sport. And getting you revved up before the main event makes it a little more likely that we’ll get to cross the finish line together.
3. The Feeling of Your Fingers in Our Hair
The sexy scalp massage we get when we’re doing our thing is definitely a bonus. Our scalps are covered with nerve endings that rarely receive attention, and you’re really the only person we want going to town up there. (We’d rather eat a set of shears than ask our barber for a scalp massage.) So don’t be afraid to get in there—a little tugging isn’t bad, either.
4. We Get to Slow Down and Appreciate Your Body
Every guy has his own pet spots on your body. They’re the curves and angles that are fully sexualized in his mind, even though you’ve never given them much though. Maybe it’s the sloping arch of your back, the smooth skin beneath your belly button, or the way your hip bone moves flirtatiously beneath your skin. From this vantage point, we really get to take it all in.
5. One Word: Underboob
Imagine you’re in our position. Now look up. Not a bad view, right?