Making your relationship happier, right now, can be just that easy… Here are examples of how others succeeded in creating more joy when they integrated these tricks to boost their love life.
1. Laugh Together
We all love to laugh at amusing events and funny people. Laughter can chase worries away and make us feel better physically as well as emotionally. The other evening my husband and I were watching a very silly movie on TV and kept cracking up as the actor got into more and more ridiculous situations. We had seen all his films and even watched them more than once. After one hysterical scene, as we caught our breath, my husband turned to me and said, “I love laughing with you!”
Science has discovered that when laughter is shared, it binds people together and increases happiness and intimacy. Laughter also strengthens your immune system and protects you from the damaging effects of stress. No wonder laughing together can enhance relationships!
2. Give a massage. We’ve told you how, so get to work rubbing him down and asking for one in return! You’ll relieve each other of stress and open the door for some oxytocin-releasing intimate action.
3. Cook breakfast. And serve it up to him in bed. My guy did this for me recently, and not only did those yummy eggs, fruit, and toast start my day off nutritionally right, but the gesture brought a lasting smile to my face.
4. Show More Affection
Sometimes when couples have been together for many years, they take each other for granted and only show off PDA when they feel like they have to (like kisses goodbye before work). And sex shouldn’t be the only way a couple should feel connected.
A friend Tammie complained that when her partner Justin reached for her with a certain look in his eyes it meant, “Let’s have a quickie.” She felt especially annoyed if he approached her while she was in the midst of some chore or activity since she usually interpreted his touch as asking to satisfy his sexual need right now.
I asked this couple to add a new dimension to their relationship by learning how to share a “loving” hug. This kind of embrace is immensely satisfying since it allows a couple to experience a tender, intimate connection without being overtly sexual. Try this: When you’re feeling affectionate, put your arms around each other and stand close together so that it feels relaxed and not too firm. Focus on their body touching yours, and enjoy the positive energy exchange without talking.
5. Surprise Each Other
You don’t need to wait for a holiday or special occasion to do something nice for your S.O. Small, romantic gestures can we done anytime, anywhere—like a fancy dinner out on a random Thursday night or a box of their favorite candy. Just keep them guessing a bit so that when the surprise comes, they’ll really appreciate how much you care.
6. Be an open book.
They can either deal with it or they can’t, but if you can’t be your most honest self with this person, it’ll come out eventually.
7. Compliment, and often.
You’re there to make each other feel like your best selves, so let the genuine praise flow freely. Like his outfit? Tell him! Like her hair today? Let her know!
8. Make promises that you really can keep.
Say things that you want to follow through with out loud. It’ll make you work harder to make them happen. Having—and setting—levels of reasonable expectations for your relationship is a healthy way to keep it strong.
9. Stop nagging.
Seriously, stop. Take a step back and figure out the big things about your partner that truly bother you, and approach them from a place of concern and support instead of nitpicking for sport. That’ll get you nowhere.
10. Put away your phones.
One of the biggest relationship tips is to give your undivided attention when your partner is speaking. It’s is one of the most important things you can do.